A mother's role
My eldest son is 7 years old already and if I rewind my age on the past 7 years I was only 19 years old.
My life as a wife and mother begin as early as the figures can explain. No regret. I am happy for everything Allah granted to me. He knows best.
This is one of the reasons why I never regret become a mother at such a young age. I still can enjoy my life to the fullest.... I can complete my degree and I have a good job now... I learn to be more responsible from time to time with the knowledge I gained along the journey as a counseling student in Universiti Putra Malaysia.
My son grew up well. I can see he's so happy to call me mommy (young mommy) and sometimes he did say
he proud to have me as his mother. I still remember when we had a conversation on the bed before sleep, he said I really love my name mommy. ADAM HARITH. Since baby I wanted you to put this name for me. Hahahaha how sweet.
All parents will decide the best for their children. As my concern, study at SJKC (Chinese school) is
tough for him so I hired a private tutor to teach him and his two Malay friends personally.
My friend provides the place at her hotel in Tanah Rata. Even I have to wait around 2 hours there but nothing to sigh for because anything you do is paid off.
As a mother do reward your children with something they like. If they like to eat at a
fast food restaurant like KFC, McDonald or Marrybrown just take them once in a while. No point to reward them for something they don't like is it? It's an effort to strengthen the values you want to incalculate in their minds.
At school he did the correction so that he will not repeat the same mistake. Try to apply this method at
home. If they did a mistake, ask them to correct it by themselves. In this situation, you must
be more strict than usual. It shows that you are serious to punish them. Maybe they can't do it as good as you but as long as they try to be responsible, it's good enough for them.
You can scold your children if they did mistakes. You can use a sad voice to show your frustration
with their attitude. Avoid using harsh and bad words because they will learn from you.
Sit next to him when you ask them to do homework. If you feel boring
you can take their pics and update in your facebook or instagram which one make you feel
happy. When they see you around it will make them more focus.
Celebrating your children's birthday is not a must but sometimes
they do want to feel celebrating their own birthday feeling. Not
necessary for you to throw a big birthday party for them. A simple one will give
the same kind of feeling to them.
My kids share the same birthday cake.
This moments will be the sweetest moment in their life when they grow up.
My children always want to sit in front with me in the car. Most of the time both of them will take place on my lap. It shows they are comfortable with you and they need more attention from you.
They like if you hug them, talk to them, tell them a joke and kiss them.
If your husband is busy with his business you can take your kids out by your own, Don't stress the relationship between you and your husband because you need more time together.
As a super mommy you can give more to your children than your husband. So if you think you want to make them happy, yes you can but if you think you want to make YOURSELF happy the children will not
see the joyful you try to bring.
Listen to their story even it's nonsense for you. If you give them respect and your valuable time now,
one day they will do the same to you. Life is a circle. What you give, you get back.
Spend time with your daughter to share a girl's talk. Ask her about her friends or the trends at school.
Maybe you can ask how she likes to tie her hair. What color she love most.
The things she wishes she can get. This will create a special bonding between you and your sweet girl..
Take a picture together with a happy face and funny styles will be a good investment in the future.
Time is precious. You can't get them once you lost them. When you want to flashback the happy times together, you just open your album and share the laugh again.
They are not perfect but in your eyes it won't be anything worth more than this.
At night is the best time to sit in a circle and you can
teach them reciting Al-Quran and teach them to pray.
This is not only a must lesson but it also can create a steong bonding
between you and your kids...
Share your hobby with your children. You can encourage them
to do the best in whatever they like not only excellent in their study.
Children are the most expensive gift was granted to me and
I promised myself to take care of them as long as i breath...